Why you HAVE to know their love language

Have you ever poured your heart and soul into the perfect gift for a partner? You spent hours coming up with the most thoughtful idea, and you took a few paychecks to save enough money to buy it. You are so excited to see the look on their face when they open that special gift.

But their reaction isn’t anything like you thought it would be. Sure, they are thankful, but it is almost as if they couldn’t have cared less to receive the gift in the first place. And your heart is crushed.

News flash- receiving gifts is NOT everyone’s love language. That means that you can spend a million dollars on that special someone, but that’s not how they receive love.

What the heck is a love language?

Per The Five Love Languages book, it’s basically what it takes for a person to feel love. A love language can be words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, gifts, and acts of service.

So why is this so important?

Well, if your partner’s love language is quality time, then buying them a gift does little to show them that you care. They need you to spend time with them where you give your undivided attention.

Or maybe their language is words of affirmation. This person needs to hear that you love them or that you are proud of them.

You have to know what your partners love language is so that you won’t waste your effort, time, and money on something that isn’t important to them.

Have you read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman? I love this book. Let me know in the comments what your partner’s love language is. My partner’s love language is Quality Time.